There have been a few pregnancy scares for my students this year. It’s tough because I remember finding out I was pregnant like it was yesterday. . . April 1, 2008. The scare doesn’t ever really go away either. You’re growing up, but you’re not grown. I don’t wish a teenage pregnancy for any young girl. It’s difficult. Not just becoming a mother, but everything between the positive pregnancy test & giving birth & every single day thereafter. The emotional roller-coaster, the societal shame, the constant battle between hating yourself, and loving what’s growing inside of you, or not!
If I can share a few things with those of you who are considering becoming a Mother it would be the following:
- If you’re sexually active, use a condom. Not just to avoid pregnancy, but to protect your body. You only get ONE!
- Respect your body!! That means you ought to only be sharing it if the person you’re sharing it with respects YOU!
- If you have a baby now, you risk so much more than disappointing those that love you. Consider your health, your body, and your life as you know it.
- Being a teenage mother doesn’t make you bad & it doesn’t make you good.
- If you’re having a baby because you love him, than you do not love yourself, enough.
- If your parents don’t know you’re sexually active, you’re not ready to have a child.
- If you think you’re in love and having a child is the next step, you do not know what love really is.
- The friends that are planning to “help” you, will always make decisions for themselves first (college, parties, jobs, academics, opportunities). You will be the only one responsible for ALWAYS putting your baby first.
The list is endless. I’d be happy to share more (email me if this is a discussion you’d like to have in private, or comment if not)! There is so much more to life at your age, and you don’t even know it yet. Consider working and using your money for YOU! Driving your first car, college, living on campus, dating, partying, graduating, marrying the guy you fell in love with as an adult, working your dream job, treating yourself to vacations and the finer things and becoming a better you every, single day! This is possible with a child, but it’s whole lot easier without one, trust me – I know!